Saturday, April 16, 2011
You Scratch My Back, I'll Scratch Yours
While reading this chapter, I have come across some appeals that stood out to me. I've noticed when I am angry or when I really need someone to do something for me because I'm being lazy, I tend to call in all debts so I can get it done. In doing this I've lost friends and even some respect from my peers. I remember a time when my friends wanted to go to a party downtown and they were planning on getting wasted. I had just put gas in my car and I wasn't planning on making any runs until the weekend. Being the good friend that I am, when they asked me to DD (designated driver) for them, I gladly accepted. Unfortunately, when the tables were turned and I needed a DD, I couldn't even get them to answer their phones. The next day they tried to start a conversation with me, which definitely didn't go any further than an evil glare.
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ReplyDeleteOh I know exactly what you mean, the ability to call on all debts can usually cause some major issues. I often times, when under pressure or stressed about something, decide to cash in my favors from others. Just like you Champagne, it usually ends not so good, but I can say I am learning from my experiences. Now when people ask favors of me, instead of always jumping and running to their rescue I stop and think first if it really is worth my time to help someone. I usually am a very generous person and give in any way for fear something bad will occur if I don’t, yet in return I feel I deserve something just as giving as I was.
ReplyDeleteI also agree that callingin your debts can cause issues between a relationship. These issues can either be beneficial or detrimental to the relationship, depending on how well or how bad a person handles the situation. In some cases people will not need to call on the debts of the other person simply because they do not see the need for it. In my own personal experience, I do not naturally expect things out of people just because I help them. But in some cases it is refreshing that people actually take this into consideration. I see it as 'treat others as you would like to be treated'. When I one of my friends didn't have enough money to pay for a parking permit, I helped pay for it and in return she drove me to work the next day.
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